The One Position Wonder: Why He Keeps Going Back to Missionary

He said he was “down to try anything.”You dimmed the lights, turned on the playlist, put the lube within arm’s reach and just when things were heating up…Boom. Missionary. Again.

Now listen, missionary isn’t the enemy. Done right, it’s intimate, effective, and can make you feel like you’re in a high-budget romantic drama.

But if it’s the only move in his playbook, we need to talk.

Because while some guys are out here throwing it down in reverse cowgirl with one hand on the headboard and the other on your soul, others are acting like sex is a gentle press conference.

Let’s break down why he’s so loyal to the classic and how to gently (or aggressively) expand his horizons.

🍑 Reason #1: He Thinks It’s Safe

Missionary is the missionary of positions for a reason:

No acrobatics required. Everyone’s face is visible. Nothing gets dislocated.

For the One Position Wonder, it’s his comfort zone.

He knows what goes where. He knows his stroke rhythm. And he’s convinced it works every time because it once did.

🤔 Reason #2: He’s Terrified of Looking Dumb Trying Something New

Doggy-style? What if he misses?

Spooning? What if his leg cramps?

Standing up? What if someone falls and now you’re both in the ER trying to explain the accident without saying the word “thrust”?

So instead, he sticks to what he knows, fearing that if he flips you over, he’ll knock over a lamp or lose his dignity somewhere in your throw pillows.

🧠 Reason #3: Porn Gave Him Bad Direction

Thanks to certain over-edited content, many men think “innovation” looks like jackhammering in a single position for 12 minutes with a facial expression like they’re diffusing a bomb.

The result? A weird, rhythmic thud that’s more “malfunctioning Roomba” than “pleasure architect.”

💋 Reason #4: He Doesn’t Know What You Like (Because You Haven’t Told Him)

To be fair: some men stick to missionary not because it’s their favorite but because they think it’s yours.

Let’s face it: a lot of us fake enthusiasm for bad technique, bad angles, or “that thing he did once that didn’t work but keeps doing because no one corrected him.”

If you want something different, say something.

Whisper it. Moan it. Write it on a whiteboard if you have to.

📈 The Upgrade: Making Missionary… Missionary Plus

If he’s stuck in missionary mode, don’t ditch the position…upgrade it.

Try this:

Put a pillow under your hips (hello, deeper angle). Add eye contact + slow grind = romance unlocked. Toss your legs on his shoulders for intensity. Lick his neck. Talk dirty. Make it a team sport.

Sometimes missionary isn’t boring, it’s just being used like it’s Windows 95.

🥂 Teach the Wonder to Wander

If your man is a One Position Wonder, don’t shame him, train him.

Gently guide him into variety. Praise his curiosity. Show him how good exploration can feel when done right. Because the truth is, most men aren’t boring by nature. They’re just used to following a script. It’s time to write a new one. Together, position by position.

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