Help! Our Vanilla Friends Think Swinging is Just ‘Cheating with Extra Steps’

You’ve been there. You’re sipping cocktails with your “vanilla” friends, and someone asks, “So, what do you guys do for fun?” You hesitate. Do you say you go to wine tastings and pretend to know the difference between ‘oaky’ and ‘fruity’? Or do you drop the truth bomb:

“We’re swingers.”

Cue the awkward silence, a spilled drink, and at least one person gasping into their wine glass 🍷 .

Swinging vs. Cheating: A PSA for the Curious and Confused

The first question is always the same: “But isn’t that just cheating… but with permission?”

Oh, Susan. Sweet, innocent Susan. Let’s break this down for you.

1. Swinging Requires More Communication Than a NASA Launch

Cheating involves lies, secrecy, and a browser history that could end a marriage. Swinging, on the other hand, is a full-time commitment to transparency. Conversations about boundaries, rules, and which couple you actually vibe with? That’s just a Tuesday night over dinner.

2. Swingers Have More Rules Than the Olympics

If cheating were the lawless Wild West, swinging would be the Supreme Court. There are agreements, pre game strategy talks, and post game debriefs. Some couples allow soft swap, some full swap, some have a ‘no kissing’ rule (shoutout to Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman).

Cheaters? They just wing it and hope no one finds out.

3. No, Swinging Won’t Magically Destroy Our Marriage

There’s always that one person who whispers, “Aren’t you worried your spouse will leave you?”

We’d be more worried if we found a secret OnlyFans subscription than if our partner had a blast at a resort with full permission. Swinging, when done right, enhances relationships rather than ruins them. It’s like adding guacamole to your burrito. It was already good, but now it’s next level.

“But I Could Never Share My Partner”

Good news: You don’t have to! That’s the beauty of personal choices. Swinging isn’t for everyone, just like camping in the woods with no Wi-Fi isn’t for everyone. We don’t go around asking monogamous couples, “Wait, so you sleep with just ONE person for the REST OF YOUR LIFE?”

Okay, sometimes we do. For science.

What to Say at the Next Dinner Party

So next time someone asks if swinging is just “cheating with extra steps,” take a sip of your drink, smile, and say:

“No, it’s open, honest, and fun… kind of like Costco samples but for relationships.”

Then watch as their minds explode.

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