5 Swinger Signs: How to Tell If Someone Might Be a Swinger

So, you’re at the neighborhood pool, and you start to wonder… “Could they be in the lifestyle?” While swingers don’t come with flashing neon signs (sadly), here are five clues that might tip you off! Let’s talk about those swinger signs that means someone might just be in the lifestyle.

1. The Pineapple Parade 🍍

If you spot pineapples everywhere—on shirts, pool floats, door knockers, or socks—someone might be giving you a subtle clue. Bonus points if they mention how much they “love tropical fruit” with a wink. And if the pineapple is upside down? Ding, ding, ding—we have a winner!

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2. They’re Very Into Theme Parties 🎉

If someone mentions yet another costume party with themes like “Naughty Schoolgirl Night” or “Leather and Lace,” they could be more than just a fan of Halloween. After all, how many pirate costumes does one person need? Arrr… they might just be lifestyle curious. Yes, swingers wear lots of themed outfits.

3. Their Vacation Spot is Suspiciously ‘Adult’ 🏝️

They keep talking about that mysterious trip to a resort in Mexico or Jamaica. You suspect a place where “clothing is optional.” They call it a “romantic getaway,” but they come back with stories of new friends and a suspiciously relaxed glow. Desire, Hedonism, or Temptation, anyone?

4. The Eye Contact is… Intense 👀

You know that look, the one that lingers a second too long, paired with a sly smile. It’s not quite flirting, but it’s enough to make you wonder if they’re scanning you for swingability. If they lock eyes and give you the nod? They’re practically handing you a membership card to the lifestyle.

5. They Drop Words Like ‘Vanilla’ in Casual Conversation 🍦

If they say things like, “Oh, we’re just having a vanilla night tonight,” they probably aren’t talking about ice cream. And if they ask if you’re “open-minded” while discussing weekend plans, they might be trying to gauge if you’re in the club.

Bonus Clue: The Ring Mystery

If they wear a black ring on their right hand or an anklet that seems to have more significance than fashion, they might be signaling that they’re ready to swing.

Important Note:

Of course, these are just playful hints! The only surefire way to know is to ask openly. Swingers value consent and transparency, so don’t be afraid to ask (politely) if you’re curious!

Of course you know you can always find swingers on SDC or another swinger social site.

What’s the funniest swinger “tell” you’ve ever noticed? Drop a comment below and let’s share a laugh!